June 23, 2010
Yesterday I took my dress to my weekly Crazy Ladies Night to try on infront of my friends. Considering I purchased the dress online and I didn’t even go dress shopping in the first place, I figured that trying it on (even though I had already purchased it) with my friends there would be sort of like trying it on in a store – only less stressful.
Well, I tried on my dress and lo’ and behold – it fit perfectly. Which I was really thrilled about because then I could see how it’s supposed to look on me, but it fit perfectly.
Everyone ooohed and aaahed over it (everyone loved it – especially the pockets) because it was simple, classic and just perfect for what I wanted it for. It was me.
The reason I’m a little nervous about it fitting perfectly is, well, that means I can’t lose or gain any weight between now and September without having to have alterations made. Right now it just needs to be hemmed. That’s it. I know. No one could believe that I bought something off the rack and it fit that perfectly. It really was the right dress afterall.
However, I’d like to lose some weight between now and then. I’m planning on going back on my birth control pill (for medical reasons, not contraceptive reasons) which as history has shown that when I go back on them (and you know – go to the gym) I lose weight. I’ve been going to the gym 3-4 times a week, eating healthy (and eating 3 meals a day) for a month and… nothing. Not one pound. My thyroid is fine (which was our first thought) and I’ve been going to the gym and burning 650 or so calories per visit.
With all hope I’ll get back on the pill, lose some weight and thankfully a friend of mine suggested a fantastic seamstress that will hopefully be able to do some last minute take-ins.
June 22, 2010
Yesterday, for some reason, I was incredibly stressed out over figuring out the venue.
I’m trying to find this balance of something that will make me happy, be worth my family flying in from over 1,000 miles away (I hate to say it – but a picnic in the park probably does not constitute a good enough reason for most of my family to fly up), and will be comfortable for my local friends too.
The biggest problem is – what I really want doesn’t feel feasable. Not because we can’t afford it – I’m guessing my father is willing to pay for the added cost if it will make me happy (trust me – it’s a HUGE surprise to me considering my life previous to this has been nothing like that) after hinting about it the other night on the phone – but because where I’d really love to have it (or at least the general area) is about 2 hours away from my hometown.
I’d feel a little like a jerk if I asked people (our friends, the bridal party and people who are helping me out for free or very cheap) to drive 2 hours (one way) to be at our wedding. Of course it would be beautiful, good food and a lot of fun, but driving 4 hours is a lot – and if they don’t want to drive that far – hotels are still kind of expensive.
It would be nice for my family however – they would get to spend a weekend in what I would say is the most beautiful part of our state. There’s tons to do there and they can all take a mini vacation. If we had our ceremony on a Saturday (we’d have to book NOW to do that) Garry and I could take that following Sunday and just spend a day out there and enjoy the scenery. I would really like that – and I know my family would really like that.
Garry’s family lives out in that direction so for them it would be a little bit of a shorter drive and it would be a little more familiar to them than driving into my hometown about an hour away.
The conundrum lies within all our close friends (who live in our hometown) who we really want to be there. Our families will go either way – whichever city we’d like to have it in is fine by either of them I’m guessing – but I’m wondering if our friends will be willing to drive all that way for us.
After worrying over that all day, I came home and found that my dress arrived! YAY!
The UPS guy dropped it off just as I was heading down the road to my second job and Garry took it up. He called and said “Hey hun, your dress is here, I opened it to…”
“NOOOOOO!!! Don’t open it!!!!”
Heehee. Really, at this point I don’t really care. I just like messing with him. After I finished giggling, I told him if he wanted to look he could – it’s not like he’d know what it looks like on me. Or if he does, oh well. I guess when it comes to these sorts of things I’m not as superstitious as most people are.
Of course, by telling him that I don’t care if he peeks, it will ensure that he won’t. It’s not as fun if I don’t really care.
The fabric is exactly what I imagined it to be – just like my maids’ dresses only in ivory (white is way too stark on my already pasty skin). I really love it. I hope I love it just as much when I put it on. I’m taking it with me to my weekly ladies night to try on in front of my friends. I’m fairly certain I’ll have to hire a seamstress to do some alterations – that’s all well and good. I don’t mind.
My MOH called and said that my engagement ring would take a day or two longer since they had to order a special shank for it. (Apparently people don’t usually order trillium cut stones) That’s fine, I’ll still get it around 4th of July which makes me a happy panda. I’m more worried about venues than anything else right now. Everything else is easy-peasy.
June 16, 2010
The last two days we’ve really got a lot of big things taken care of. Garry purchased our wedding bands and my engagement ring (which my ring will be here on the 29th! I’m so excited!!) and today, by luck, I found my handfasting dress.
Here are our wedding bands:
Photo from Kays.com
Photo from Kays.com
I thought he did a fantastic job don’t you think? It’s nice knowing that my husband-to-be has excellent taste in jewelry.
It’s funny though – if he had left the decision up to me – I don’t think that’s what I would’ve picked. I would’ve figured he wouldn’t want anything with stones in it. He just doesn’t seem like the kind of guy that would like something like that. I guess I was wrong huh? Originally we were going to get plain bands, but I’m sure my MOH said “Oh no, that won’t do – you should get this” and Garry, I love him dearly, but he’s attracted to shiny things.
Yesterday he came home and brought the bands with him. His is a little too small and needs to be resized. When he was showing me the bands he shoved his as far as he could on his finger and stood there, complete with a goofy grin on his face and a sort-of “Captain Morgan” pose – “Hey honey – this is what I’m going to look like when I’m your husband!”
He is such a dork. But, he’s my dork – and that makes me happy.
So today I was scouring the internet for a while and thinking about my handfasting dress. I ordered the fabric and patterns for my maids – they’re all set. We have bands and my engagement ring is on the way, so that’s set. Another really important thing – my dress – was something of a mystery. I browsed through all the websites for the pattern companies and didn’t find anything I really liked 100%. I had pretty strict criteria when it came to this dress though.
1. Material should look kind of raw and organic – like the shantung I bought the girls. It’s gorgeous! I love the drape and everything about it.
2. It needed to be floor length.
3. It should be comfortable, able to wear a strapless bra (or something supportive) underneath it that I already own.
4. I need to be able to wear it to work (after hemming it to knee length) – even if I have to wear a bolero or a cardigan over it. (I’m poor and need more work clothes – so anything that can pull double duty is definitely worth it for me!)
5. For the love of all things holy and sacred – NO BLING. (Although pearl beading, lace, or flowers were okay – just nothing super sparkley)
The fourth criteria was the hardest to fulfill. There were tons of gorgeous patterns out there, but I couldn’t see them being hemmed short for an everyday wear dress. Secondly, there were a lot of strapless dresses – which I like – but I abhorr with the fiery passion of a thousand suns really don’t like to sew boning. It’s a pain – and sewing can be difficult enough as it is (and I have a really busy summer lined up) so an easy pattern that I can use shantung fabric with that didn’t require boning or was possibly pushing my sewing skills was impossible to find.
I decided to check the David’s Bridal website (again, for what felt like the millionth time) just to see if maybe there was something in my price range on the site that would work (and save me some effort and sanity).
Lo’ and behold I found my handfasting dress.
It even has POCKETS! I almost fell out of my chair! It was perfect! I can wear my convertible strapless bra (I have a clear strap that I can put as a halter) for extra support and the pleating on the bodice won’t show off *too* much cleavage. It’s made out of shantung fabric too! The cut is perfect (the banding looks like it’s in just the right spot for my waist) and I can hem it short and it will be really cute for work or wherever I need a cute dress!
The coup de gras? Well, it was on sale for $109. A little more than I wanted to pay (after you include shipping), but then I noticed that there was an online promotion for $20 off a select group of white dresses. I figured I’d check that out – just in case I found something I liked more. Again, almost falling out of my chair, that dress was a part of that promotion! I ended up paying $89.99 for the dress and after all was said and done I paid $104.94 – only $4.94 more than I budgeted – but without the hassle of trying to sew my own dress!
You can imagine my excitement.